Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Acceptance


No matter how hard you try, someone will probably be better than you.

Catherine, my whipper-fast friend, can easily run a mile in under 7 minutes. Me? Not even close. But in the same light, I'm probably better at something she's not. . . like I'm really good at mixing fabrics in crafty ways. Completely different talents, but that's kind of the point.

We could help each other get better at the things we need, or make that want, to improve upon. If I ran with Catherine regularly I would most definitely get faster. If she squeezed sewing and redecorating into her life like Martha Stewart, she'd develop more of an eye for swatch matching.

But honestly, I don't want to get Tasmanian Devil fast when I run. I jog. It clears my mind. It keeps my friend Kirsten's best-ever gingersnaps from sticking to my ass. It does the trick without giving me a heart attack. I accept that. If people judge me for being a personal trainer who runs like a snail, oh well. Not my problem.

Too many of us throw in the towel if we can't achieve our own self-imposed version of perfection. As a trainer and as a crafter I see it all the time. Believe me, I do it myself. I think we are the hardest on ourselves when it comes to the things we hold the most dear. Weight loss, the perfect handmade birthday gift, that novel you have percolating in your head. The more you want it the more elusive it seems to be.

Now I ramble on about this because I need to work on acceptance myself. Maybe you do to. Personally, I get incredibly cranky when I pull something off my sewing machine and it does not match the cuteness of what I imagined in my head. . . And I see clients having their own little internal arguments dealing with their own goals and routines. Reminds me of the quote by Rienhold NeiBuhr:

God, grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
Now, I'm not saying settle for mediocre or don't even try. I'm just suggesting you might enjoy your endeavors more if you, well, enjoy them! If weight loss is your goal, find exercises that are actually fun for you. If you want to learn to sew your own clothes, start with something basic--like an apron--before attempting to create your wedding dress. And if you never reach that ideal number on the scale or you just buy off the rack don't berate your self. As long as you tried, made progress, that's what really matters. Ultimately you might learn that those 5 extra pounds are outweighed by the joy of the baby you hold in your arms, or that sewing curtains and quilts floats your boat a heck of a lot more than dress making. We're all learning along the way.

Michael Jordan said it well, "Failure is part of success." And like I say, "if you learn something new, that's a good thing." Accept it!

2 comments:

Betty Lou said...

Kristin, this post of yours made my day. A common sense reminder for all of us who are hard on ourselves.

We should just snap out of it -- AND LIVE!

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

I love that girl's dress because it reminds me of my mom. She used to dress like that. Made her own clothes on her reliable Singer with handstitched hems and buttonholes. When the dress wore out, she'd take off the buttons and snip out the zipper, if there was one, and save them for the next garment.

She'd dust with the old dress fabric, or use it to make a sieve for making cheese, or put it into the rag bin to save up for a rug for the bathroom or beside the bed.

She'd even make us hairbows out of old dresses. We lived in the times of meeting our needs, not our wants. But, that was a different time.

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